LIFE: How To Date An Ambitious Girl
With an increase in opportunities for women, its no secret that women today are becoming more ambitious. Even pop culture is taking notice, brought to life by songs like Wale’s “Ambitious Girl” and Beyonce’s “Girls (Who Run The World).” But despite the empowerment happening, one thing is resoundingly clear, some of the prettiest, most ambitious girls are usually single. It’s rare to see a girl on the path to greatness hooked arm and arm with a guy who is also trotting down that path.
The biggest issue? Guys may want to approach these ambitious girls, but fumble and foul in more ways than one. Making assumptions that the girl is busy, and crafting their approach around this idea is the biggest no, no. Check out the list of what to do and what not to do when asking an “ambitious” girl out.
1. Don’t ask her when she is “free.”
This girl probably has a to do list filled with items longer than the hours that exist in a single day. She hates having idle time, so every second or block of time is filled with something she should be doing. So, asking her when she is free is quite frankly annoying. It hits a chord because she feels like she should never be “free” persay. In her mind free time is a waste of time. So, to ask her when she is free will never get you a straight answer and definitely won’t get her to give you any of it.
2. Be Direct
What works best is to be specific about a date and time you’d like to see her. Give a couple of options and its likely she can move something around or reschedule something in order to make time to spend some time with you. Chances are you’re busy too, so the more specific the better it is for both of your schedules.
3. Don’t Assume
If you don’t know don’t try to guess, or impose your assumptions upon her. Don’t assume she has a boyfriend and don’t assume she doesn’t have time. Assuming she is busy and not reaching out and then blaming it on her schedule or work load is not the way to go and its just another annoying trait that will make her less interested. Don’t be afraid to take charge, be aggressive, be spontaneous or surprise her even when she says she is working. While she’s not sitting by her phone waiting for you, she still wants to see you and wants to know you’re thinking of her.
4. Do your research
Don’t waste her time or yours. Know a bit about her and what she does. It isn’t hard to find out these days from just ten or fifteen mins of social skimming what she’s into. Use that when crafting the date, or during conversation. She’ll be flattered that you know a little about that last article she wrote, or her newest client she added to her roster.
5. Texting vs. Calling
There’s a time for everything and same goes for this. This isn’t high school, so chances are, she’d rather get to know you face to face rather than hours on the phone in looping convos until 3am. And, she’s probably not a texter. Sorry guys, if you text her during the work day, she’ll look at it and say to herself ‘aw let me get back to him after I finish this.’ Then, a few hours later she will remember but we all know in the text world her response time has now expired. But there is an exception here, there are some girls who still do like the all day texting and long phone calls, you’ll need to make your own informed decision when it comes to this.
6. The Grand Finale – The Date
Now if you actually make it to this point be sure to make it count. Make it something adventurous, or simply have it involve good food, good drinks and good convo. Or make it happen in a pretty setting, a park, a garden, a museum– the list of possibilities are endless, once you get to this point.
After you make it to the “other side”– from a random guy who is maybe sort of trying to talk to her, to a guy she possibly might talk to– don’t drop the ball. Following the first date, the first conversation is usually a good indication of how things went and whether or not you both click. Again, we aren’t in high school so none of that waiting 3 days thing. Dealing with ambitious girls isn’t easy. She’s not waiting for you to call her, or taker her out. She isn’t going to be a silent accessory when you go out together, she’s not dependent, or needy and she will criticize you, push you and maybe even inspire you if you let her.
So, ambitious ladies, weigh in, what have I left out? And fellas, what do you think?